Another Kind of Luscious Sex...

Analingus / Rimming

Analingus is the act of licking or inserting the tongue into the anus to provide pleasure. Both men and women enjoy analingus and you can use some of the same techniques on each.Try to get into a position where the receiver's butt cheeks are naturally spread. Having them kneel on all fours (doggie style) with their legs spread apart, or on their back with their legs up in the air (again, legs spread apart). You may also use your - or their - hands to spread the cheeks and give you better access to the anus. One of the most important thing to remember when thinking about anal sex is that, unlike the vagina, the anus isn't self-lubricating: you gotta bring your own grease.  And, the more lube you use, the better. It will make the initial penetration much more easy and less painful for the woman and make the whole experience, for both of you, much more pleasant. The most common suggestion we get from our readers is to use lots of lube; we just can't emphasize this point enough.

Different people like different techniques, so you're best off experimenting with several of those listed below to see which your partner enjoy's most. It's also good to remember that most people won't orgasm by anal sex alone, so you should keep analingus fairly brief or keep them stimulated in some other way at the same time.

Flicking Gently flick the tip of the tongue across the outer rim of the anus.
Ringing the Bell Push your tongue against the anus, then remove it, as though you were ringing a doorbell.
Licking: Use your full tongue to lick completely across the anus. This one may surprise you.
Probing: Insert the tongue as far into the anus as you can, then probe around with the tip. When you find their pleasure centers, probe some more.

Anal Sex Tips....

• Preparing for Sex- To get ready for anal sex, the first thing the receiver needs to do is relax. A hot bath or a massage beforehand is always a good idea to get prepared.
• Start Slowly - Because there is a very fine line between pain and pleasure during anal sex, we suggest that you begin your anal explorations very slowly and proceed at a leisurely pace that will allow to experience and appreciate each level of insertion.
• Proper Lubrication- More so than in any other form of sex, proper lubrication is essential in the enjoyment of anal sex. Every time you insert anything into the anus, from a finger to a penis, you're likely to tear tissue walls along the sides (much like you do to the inside of your mouth every time you brush your teeth).
• Male Prostate Stimulation- Though many men are reluctant to admit it, most find some sort of anal stimulation to be erotically stimulating. Even non-gay men report that inserting a finger or butt plug into the anus during sex causes incredible, throbbing orgasms.
• Anal Orgasm- A small percentage of men and women can achieve actual orgasm through exclusive anal stimulation (ie., anal stimulation alone). Though many men and women enjoy and take great pleasure in anal stimulation, it is most often in conjunction with normal sexual activities, the orgasm is simply heightened by anal sex.
• Combination Sex- Most people find that anal sex is a tremendous tool to enhance their regular sex activities. In a majority of cases, the actual anal sex is used in conjunction with a variety of other sexual activities and positions.
• The Best Anal Position- Have the receiving parther lie on their back with their knees in the air. The inserting parther should kneel or lie facing the receiving parner and insert at an angle that is comfortable to both. In this position, the receiving partner can relax several muscles necessary for pleasurable anal sex.

Finally, it's not a good idea to perform oral sex or even kissing after analingus, as bacteria from the anus can wreak havoc on other parts of the body. Make sure to clean your mouth thoroughly after analingus.

Cunnilingus

Take your time when you start to eat pussy. Get her warmed up with some basic foreplay-kissing, fondling, etc. It's better to go down on a wet pussy than a dry one. Once she's aroused, make your descent. Try kissing and tonguing her ankle or the sole of her foot. Then kiss and lick your way slowly up the inside of her leg (the back of the knee is a good erogenous zone, too). Tease her a bit more by kissing and tonguing her inner thighs. Blow some air lightly over her cooter. She'll go nuts. Once your face is up in her crotch, don't dive straight for her panic button. Explore the whole area with your mouth. Gently probe with your tongue and locate her vagina and clit. Suck on her labia. Get your whole face messy.

You can create some wild sensations for her by stimulating her clit with both your fingers and your tongue simultaneously. Also, most women enjoy a finger or two in their cunt while being eaten out. Insert your fingers with your palm up, crook them slightly, and stroke toward you in a "come hither" motion to hit her G-spot . A finger up the ass will also drive her over the edge if she's into anal play. (As always, to avoid infection, if you put something in her ass, make sure you don't put it in her pussy afterward.)

Take your time. You may be raring to go, but understand that it physically takes her body longer than yours to become aroused.

Don't skip the foreplay. Caress her slowly, beginning perhaps with a non-genital massage. Work up to her erotic areas slowly; she'll indicate when she's ready for things to heat up.

Discover her erogenous zones. Some women love to have their nipples stroked or sucked, others don't. Find out where she likes to be touched -- and don't frustrate her by doing something elsewhere that won't please her.

Understand that she may be self-conscious about her body. If so, don't criticize her figure or the size of her breasts. In fact, don't call attention to her body at all. Enjoy her body with your eyes and hands, not your words.

Introduce her to the pleasures of oral sex. She's likely to find the intensity of the experience most satisfying if you locate her clitoris and stroke it with your tongue in a way that brings her to climax.

Know how her body works. Have you found her g-spot? Can she use her Kegel muscles during intercourse? Is she capable of multiple orgasms? All of these are wonderful to find out.

Try sex positions that maximize her pleasure. Women-on-top positions generally afford the kind of contact that delivers the best results.

Smell great. Not perfumed, just clean and manly.

Make birth control a mutual responsibility. Don't leave it up to her -- unless she requests you do so.

Mind your manners: Ladies first. Whenever possible, see to it that she orgasms before you do. And if she tells you it's not going to happen that night, accept it. There's always tomorrow... or a little bit later.

Tips:

1. Tell her you love her. When the feeling comes over you, say it out loud. She'll know how much you genuinely mean it.
2. A small token of affection is always appreciated. A flower, a book, a love note all tell her how much you're thinking of her and how precious she is to you.
3. Put a pillow or two under your neck and let her sit on your face. This gives you a nice view of her tits and gives her a degree of control over pressure and position. Let her grind her juices all over your mug.

Fellatio

The biggest mistake that novice fellatrixes make is scraping the penis with their teeth. Though some men may like this mix of pain and pleasure, most will not. Fact is, it's difficult to relax and enjoy the sensations if you're always worrying about your dick being bitten off during a blowjob. It may seem simple, but if you act like you enjoy giving head, it will increase his pleasure greatly. Nothing's worse that getting a blow job from a reluctant or unwilling partner. Of course, the best way to do this is to swallow at the end, but even if you can't bring yourself to do that, a little enthusiasm will go a long way.

Be firm...
A penis isn't a popsicle. Licking at first (especially behind the head) can be tantalizing and exciting, but when it's time to get down to business, take him firmly in your mouth and bob your head up and down. Your hands are free, so use them! Complement the sucking up top with a hand job lower down the shaft, lubed up with your saliva of course. Gently play with his balls. And, if you're an adventuresome couple, even try putting a finger or two up his ass. However, be careful not to put them anywhere near the penis after that. A pair of latex gloves and water-based lube will help with hygiene. Your hands are also a good way to speed up his coming if you're not looking for a marathon session. A hand job/blow job combo should  result in a quick, intense orgasm. 

Perform oral sex. For the majority of men, nothing is as satisfying as the intensity of pleasure they experience during fellatio.

Take responsibility for your own orgasm.He's happiest in bed when he knows you enjoy sex as much as he does. So learn about your body and know what it takes to turn you on.

Communicate your desire. He won't know what feels good and what you love in bed unless you communicate. So tell -- or better yet -- show him.

Let him see you nude.Men are turned on by the visual, so don't be bashful. Make love with the lights on, and remember that women tend to be far more critical about their bodies than men are.

Discover his erogenous zones. His penis isn't the only part of his body that experiences pleasure. Learn if he likes to have his nipples, scrotum, earlobes, feet, or other parts of his body touched.

Be inventive and experimental. Don't be afraid to try something new in bed -- a new position, tantric sex, mutual masturbation. You may end up adding something great to your regular bedroom repertoire.

Follow his lead. If he kisses you in a special place or touches you a certain way, try doing the same back to him. Also get him to show you how he masturbates -- and learn to do it for him just the way he likes.

Don't forget the sexy lingerie. Even girls who sleep in T-shirts will find wearing something red-hot once in a while is a guaranteed man-pleaser. Especially when combined with a slow striptease.

Share fantasies. Tell him yours, and invite him to share his with you. Take the fantasies to the next level and act them out if you're both comfortable doing that.

Let him know how turned on you are. Talk dirty to heighten his excitement and yours.

Tips:

Don't criticize him in bed.He's at his most vulnerable there, and words that are harsh or cavalier may be long remembered. If you do have a sex problem, address it when you're not in an intimate setting.
Let him know he's the best ever.

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